The term “co-sleeping” doesn’t only mean bed sharing. It can be any form of children sleeping in the same room as their parent. It’s commonly practiced in many cultures around the world – whether by necessity or choice.
Many modern parents intend for their new baby to sleep in his own room, but it doesn’t always work out that way.
With 72% of postpartum women reporting waking up tired and getting less than seven hours of sleep at night, you are not alone in losing sleep caring for a newborn. Countless other sleep-deprived parents have experimented and found sleep strategies that work, with co-sleeping being a worldwide favorite.
In a co-sleeping situation, a newborn sleeps in the same room as her parents—usually in a co-sleeper or a bassinet near the bed. Parental anecdotes and research suggest that co-sleeping helps both parents and newborns sleep better.
By sleeping in the same room as your child, not only are you able to sense your baby’s needs more easily, but you also can meet those needs more quickly. Co-sleeping helps minimize the amount of sleep disruption for both you and your baby.
According to Dr. William Sears, “Sharing sleep involves more than a decision about where your baby sleeps. It is a mindset, one in which parents are flexible enough to shift nighttime parenting styles as circumstances change. Every family goes through nocturnal juggling acts at different stages of children’s development.”
“Sharing sleep reflects an attitude of acceptance of your baby as a little person with big needs. Your infant trusts that you, his parents, will continually be available during the night, as you are during the day. Sharing sleep in our culture also requires that you trust your intuition about parenting your individual baby instead of unquestionably accepting the norms of American society. Accepting and respecting your baby’s needs can help you recognize that you are not spoiling your baby or letting him manipulate you when you welcome him into your bed.”
Helps Baby Sleep Through the Night
With your baby sleeping in the same room, you easily sense your baby’s distress before he startles or starts to cry, which releases adrenaline, raises heart rate and blood pressure, making it harder for him to fall back asleep.
Research has shown that co-sleeping newborns startle and cry significantly less than solo-sleepers. And if your newborn wakes and cries less during the night, everyone gets better sleep.
Reduces the Risk of SIDS
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents share a room with their newborn for the first six months because co-sleeping reduces the risk of sudden infant death syndrome. International research shows that countries with the lowest SIDS rates are where co-sleeping is the norm, not the exception.
Keeping this recommendation in mind, co-sleeping with your baby reduces many sleep safety risks. Sharing a room with your newborn gives you the ability to immediately respond to her needs.
Allows for Longer Sleep Intervals for Parents
Parents also benefit from co-sleeping, with many finding more restful nights and a closer connection to their child. Parents get more sleep with co-sleeping because they lose less sleep from nighttime feedings.
It may seem like waking up and walking down a hallway to feed your newborn wouldn’t impact your sleep, but it does. Changing position and even light activity make it harder to fall back to sleep. Feeding while co-sleeping just requires rolling over and sitting up, helping you get back to sleep faster.
It’s not just parents who fall asleep faster with this feeding situation. In fact, one study has found that newborns who feed while co-sleeping actually have shorter wake times and fall back asleep faster too. Co-sleeping helps everyone get better sleep.
Fosters Greater Connection with Your Baby
Many parents who co-sleep express feeling more in sync with both the biological and emotional needs of their children. It is common knowledge that physical touch is essential to healthy child development, but parents also benefit from physical contact with their children. Touch for parents stimulates the release of oxytocin. This hormone strengthens the connection between parent and child.
Many parents believe this connection fostered during co-sleeping makes them more empathetic and mindful of their children as they grow older. If you want to foster a greater connection with your child, co-sleeping might be the answer for your family.